Have you ever gone through a “dry season” and wanted to know how to get out of it? For those unfamiliar with this term, a dry season is another way of saying “I don’t feel close to God and joy is lacking in my life.” I think we’ve all been there. It feels like we’re in a long distance relationship with God and we are the most unspiritual person on the planet. During these times should we just wait for the rain or can we do something to get out of this funk?
But I don’t feel like it
The hardest thing about being in a “dry season” is the fact that you don’t feel like doing anything else except possibly sulking and complaining. Emotions are real and have a tendency to override reason. Reason may tell you to call your friend and let him know that you’re having a hard time. But if you’re depressed a phone suddenly feels like it weighs 500lbs and just the thought of calling your friend can be overwhelming.
So a key here is training yourself to do the things you know you should do even when don’t feel like it. The other night I was in one of these funks and all I felt like doing was sleeping, sulking and complaining. But my wife wouldn’t let me do that. She made me play racquetball. And then asked me what was wrong and what I planned to do about it. When she asked me that I realized that I wasn’t planning to do anything about it – except continue to be miserable. I could sense that my pity party was coming to an end.
What Are you going to do?
It’s amazing how when we are depressed we feel like we are powerless to do anything. It feels like life sucks and there’s nothing we can do about it. And then we are asked “what are you going to do?” Hmm…well, I never thought about that.
The truth of the matter is that we always have choices. It’s just that depression brings a cloud over the soul so it can be difficult to see those choices. I’m happy to tell you that my wife officially put the kibosh on my pity party by asking me what I was going to do. I could either continue to sulk or I could do something else. I decided I had sulked enough.
So what has helped you overcome depression, dry seasons, or just being in a bad mood? Do you agree that we always have a choice? Why or why not?